Respecting the elements: Water

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This leaf gathering drops reminded me just how sacred water is. It’s easy to take it for granted because it flows so easily through our faucets. So much water is wasted in our society… Building a relationship with the four elements invites a lot of gratitude.

I often thank the water while I’m showering. When I fill my water bottle at the water cooler I wait until the water stops dripping to remove my bottle from the spout. When I forget to empty my bottle before going through TSA.. I chug the water. It absolutely breaks my heart to see people dumping precious water in the trash at the airport.

All the ways we respect Water help us build a relationship with the element and brings the elemental qualities into our lives. How do you show your respect for Water?

Halloween Ritual

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Halloween, or Samhain as we call it for cross-quarter holidays, is a sacred day where we honor our ancestors. We honor their wisdom, we honor our oldest ancestors, the elements (air, fire, water, earth) because we are made of them. We are made of the DNA of our ancestors and they have passed their traumas, their lessons, and their stories to us. They watch over us and walk with us supporting us.

Today is also the new moon in scorpio, a perfect time for setting intentions and letting go of what no longer serves us. We can set personal intentions and we can set intentions for peaceful co-creation together, as we co-create this world.

Today and every day I pray for Standing Rock and for a peaceful solution where the Sioux people may have their sacred land restored to them and the sacred water source of the river they are protecting. We can pray for the Water Protectors are to #DanceForStandingRock: while you dance, say the mantra, “I dance for standing rock.”

When we pray together, we create a force, a vortex, and we amplify the prayers.

We know that Spirit is listening because the buffalo herd showed up at Standing Rock a few days ago.

So, there is a lot to pray for today, October 30! Watch the video for more :)

 

Why visualization doesn’t always work

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When we are manifesting things that we want, we often try to visualize the outcome we are hoping for. But sometimes visualizing creates friction if we know that something isn’t going to turn out that way. Here’s how you can make sure you still get what you want!

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Recalibrating your body, recalibrating your life

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When we pay attention to somatics and observe how our bodies feel in certain situations and moments, we are able to adjust and make changes. We might be able to embody new practices and in the process, create a new body with new habits and actions.

For example, when we catch ourselves slouching, we can notice how we feel in those moments, and then take an action to shift our stance, and in doing so, we also shift our mood or shift our perspective. Over time, or maybe in no time at all, this can change how we approach our lives; with confidence and embodiment, with curiosity and perhaps courage to face the unknown.

In the video, I explain why somatics are important, and of course, why babies are so flexible.

Check out the soundcloud meditations I mentioned here.

AND

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Medicine keepers of the city

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I was getting off the bus and getting my mail, pondering the medicine keepers of the city. It can be a challenge to be a medicine keeper in the city. We belong in the wilderness. We want to live in the backcountry, maybe in a cabin deep in the woods or the mountains with a fire burning and a slower lifestyle with lots of room for the sacred.

Yet we show up where we are needed in the mainstream. We are needed in the cities as intermediaries between the land and the community. We are teachers, healers, light warriors. We tirelessly make room for the sacred where there appears to be no room at all for the sacred.

I was feeling a bit sad that I have to look harder for the magic in the concrete jungle. And then I *noticed* the bees buzzing and among the flowers of this Russian sage bush.

The magic, right there in front of me, in the middle of the city.

And I realize I don’t have to look very hard at all. It’s in the weeds growing up through the cracks in the concrete and the call of the crows talking to me. All we need to do is let go of the distractions, tune in, and *notice* the magic, it is always there for us.

How to choose the media you consume

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how the media you consume impacts emotional state

Daily life can be full of trauma. Especially living in the crazy city of Denver at the moment I see people committing micro-aggressions on a consistent basis, through rudeness, crudeness, unkind words, and even physical aggression. A few months ago someone downtown was chasing people around hitting them with a PVC pipe…yeah. People be crazy.

There are times when we just can’t handle any more darkness at the end of the day. Noticing this is an act of self care. Yes, we need to be active members of society and stand up when bad things are happening instead of ignoring it…Like when a man on the bus a few weeks ago kept on shouting the N word and I told him it was not OK to say. He ignored me and kept shouting it. But at least I said something. Complicity is its own monster.

I have created a “No Dark Diet” in order to make more room for joy and laughter, and to limit the amount of stress and darkness that comes into my psyche. Even small events or activities cause stress to build up and become stored in the body as tension, discomfort, anxiety, and general dis-ease. Some “darkness” is of course necessary because there is no light without darkness, but most stress is unnecessary and it’s best to avoid it when possible.

This is the No Dark Diet:

  • No dark movies or shows. Often these disturb me or make me feel anxious while I am watching and after I have finished watching. Instead I make room for laughter and joy by watching comedies and feel great while I’m watching.
  • Not hanging around dark people. Shutting down negativity in conversation. Instead, talking about feelings, goals, improvements, solutions, celebrations.
  • Listening to uplifting music, because it makes me happy and makes me want to dance. Dancing always shifts my mood.
  • Reading uplifting books, because the media I consume creates and inspires the ideas and thoughts that go through my mind.
  • Tempering consumption of media- only reading news that is accurate, not sensationalized. Because I don’t care to hear about The Donald talking about his penis on the Republican debate. I know he’s ridiculous. I don’t need to know more about his ridiculousness. I’d rather debrief from a trusted source (e.g. NPR) than endure stupidity first-hand or listen to pundits argue about it.
  • Weeding out social media friends who are inflammatory or who trigger or annoy you. Because social media is supposed to be fun and inspiring!
  • Fixing things that annoy you (for example, changing a dead lightbulb, or getting a new bag when your zipper breaks). Every annoyance creates stress piled on stress. Instead, having things run smoothly cuts down on unnecessary stress and makes life easier. Also, automating annoying tasks (like paying bills automagically instead of having to remember the due date every month) is a miracle!

All of these tactics improve my outlook. The parts of our psyche that we feed grow. I want to feed myself loving and inspiring media and ideas. What’s part of your No Dark Diet?

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Missing something doesn’t always mean you wish for it

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Usually when I say I miss something it means I want more of it. When I tell my far-away friends “I miss you” usually it means “I wish I could be in your presence on a regular basis.” It means that I am wishing for something other than what is.

But sometimes when we miss something it means that it was meaningful to us.

Sometimes I miss living in Seattle—I miss the plants, the rain, the Puget Sound…I appreciate all of the transformations I underwent while living in Seattle, but that doesn’t mean I should live there again.

That it was a meaningful experience doesn’t always mean we need to go back to being in those circumstances, but rather that we appreciate that it happened. It means that the experience or the circumstance shaped our lives in some way. It means we value those people, that place, that experience.

When we are living in the present moment instead of the past or the present, we have fewer things to be anxious about. We are ready to accept what happens more readily, we are flowing with what happens for us instead of trying to compare to the past or plan for the future.

When we approach each moment as just that moment rather than missing something that was (living in the past), we are more able to accept death. Not necessarily physical death of a body, but rather the natural cycles of life.

We are able to accept the death of that moment, as we move on to something else. We are able to accept when we are let go from a relationship, and we are able to see when it is time for us to let go of a relationship that is no longer serving us–That kind of death. It doesn’t matter if it’s the death of a relationship with a person, a job, a substance, a habit, it could be anything. Maybe it doesn’t serve me to stay up late at night anymore but now I won’t be able to read for hours each night. It’s time to let go of that habit and move on to something new. That is a small death.

When we live in this way we are subtly acknowledging the impermanence of our lives, our relationships, our circumstances. When we recognize the magic of the present moment and when we flow with what life is serving to us, we invite The Trickster into our lives.

The archetype of The Trickster smashes the structures and the lifestyle that we have created for ourselves. The Trickster will bother with us when we can recognize him at work, and see that he is breaking into our subconscious to trip up what we have systematically created for ourselves.

If we weren’t able to accept the little deaths before; if we are missing something or wishing for something, or even forcing something, rather than simply accepting how things are, The Trickster will help us as he smashes and kills our well-laid plans.

For example, sometimes we wish a circumstance would arise that just isn’t happening. We’re forcing it. Instead, we can recognize that this isn’t going to work and isn’t serving us, and let go of the idea. When we let go, another door opens.

The Trickster will remind us that we are not always in control; we can’t force something to happen that we are wishing for. The Trickster will remind us that there are possibilities in our lives beyond what we have considered for ourselves. The Trickster is a pain in the ass…but he is very wise.

It is a special strength that we demonstrate when we are able to roll with The Trickster’s punches, to see the impermanence of everything, and to move through life’s cycles with grace, appreciating what we have experienced instead of wanting something back…and accepting what is. Where has The Trickster been showing up in your life?

It’s a hot mess back here

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We all compare ourselves to others–it is human. With social media, we are all able to highlight the amazing parts of our lives. This is a beautiful thing because we are grateful…but it also gives us an unrealistic view of life when we scroll through Instagram or Facebook and see only the beauty in peoples’ lives.

At lunch last week with a business consort and sister-friend who always seems to have it all together, she confessed that she has been stressed and wanting to get a backup source of income. I observed how we never know what is going on with someone behind the scenes, and she said that people often are impressed with all she has accomplished lately. They tell her how successful she is. She said, “I think, ‘Really? Cuz it’s a hot mess back here.'”

Recently fellow business owners have been reaching out far more in collaboration. How can we work together? How can we make things easier for one another, support one another in our zones of genius, complement one another’s skills? Many of us have similar missions to be of service in the world and it is far easier to do so together.

If we are willing to admit when “it’s a hot mess back here” instead of pretending it’s all gravy to seem successful, we can ask for help and get the help we need.

When we are up front about what we are healing or working on, discussing what we are in the process of learning can often spark someone else’s self-discovery. Now that is being of service to the world.

Here’s to truth telling!

What were your kid dreams?

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What did you dream you could be as a kid? An artist? An archaeologist? A secret agent?

What did you dream of doing while you were in college, preparing to enter the “real world”? Have you “gotten there” yet?

It’s a trip to look back and remember what your plan or your dream was…because often our plan doesn’t work quite as we hoped. The destination that we dream of tends to have a winding road that leads there. Or perhaps the destination changes throughout life. Mine has evolved more than I can count so far in this lifetime!

A friend of mine was telling me how excited she was that her new house is so “fancy”…it even has a washer and dryer in the house! She said, “If 15-year old me heard me saying this, she would say, ‘what happened? You’re excited about a washing machine? Where’s your erotic novel writing career?’…And I would tell her, ‘that has to wait.’”

Would your 15-year old self be happy about who and how you turned out to be?

The “real world” can be challenging—with the need for a steady paycheck, health insurance, car insurance, grocery bills, gas bills, doctor bills, 401k savings…The list goes on. But we can choose how we spend our time. We can choose who we spend it with. We can choose what parts of ourselves to feed and develop. That also means taking action and chasing our dreams, even if it’s only 5 minutes a day at first.

And we can choose how we see ourselves and how we see the world. This journey is sacred, and everything is happening for you. Even your greatest pain. It is part of you, and it is carrying you somewhere. Your soul came here to evolve, and you are being divinely led from one adventure to another, even if you can’t see it now. We are all on a soul-journey, and each lifetime helps our soul learn new things about being a human. You are being led to what your soul needs to learn next in its evolution during this lifetime.

We choose to enjoy the journey, and we continue to evolve and develop our dreams as we grow throughout life. What is your soul learning?

How to Embody Feminine Sexuality

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Feminine sexuality- rose

I was chatting with a single male friend about dating and feminine sexuality and he recounted his recent experience in his office building scoping out the women. He said that he finds the women around him to be cold and focused on their work, and that this is unattractive to him. It does not draw him in, and keeps him away.

I have been these women. Focused on where I’m going. Doing anything to NOT make eye contact with a man.

Societal patterning and feminine sexuality

As a kid visiting New York City, my mom would tell me “look straight ahead” “don’t make eye contact.” This is great advice if you don’t want randoms to catcall you in NYC, but not so great for relating to the men around you in your office building, your gym, on the trail…in your community.

I often find myself trying not to make eye contact with men because I don’t want to be seen. I don’t want anyone to approach me rudely. I don’t want to deal with crudeness which I have experienced in the past.

Masculinization of feminine sexuality at work

On top of that was a layer of masculinity that I acquired while working in corporate offices. “Just keep your head down and get your work done.” This is our culture, this is how our society works. We value strength and independence.

These patterns that women live in daily life become ingrained in us. We become masculinized. With a focus on where we’re going and what we’re doing, we lose sight of how we’re being. We fear being too vulnerable (one of the essences of femininity).

It’s often not welcome in the workplace. And thus we lose trust in our feminine radiance and what we have to gift in the world. We are merely surviving in a masculine world.

How to shift toward repatterning and embodying your feminine sexuality

What if we take off the corporate masculine armor, and shed protection mechanisms we acquired as vulnerable children and adolescents? Try making steady eye contact with a man at the gym or on the street. It is so uncomfortable, but it feels good to connect; to notice and to be noticed. Often I realize that people are noticing me much more than I ever thought they would.

We can also consciously walk around with an open heart. Become aware of the womb and the heart, and the connection between them, breathing into them and settling into these spaces as you walk. This way, we have taken off the armor and we are vulnerable and ready to connect with both women and men who come our way.

Although we are more vulnerable to being hurt this way, it reinforces the belief that we are courageous and willing to risk being uncomfortable on an edge when we would prefer to retreat. It is dangerous to have an open heart, and I notice when I need to zip up, but I have seen more meaningful connections come to me when I relax my body and I am in my feminine essence and feminine sexuality.

Meanwhile, many men are kind of wimpy. Perhaps they don’t approach women because they don’t feel welcomed by the feminine radiance. They lack direction in life, they lack commitment to their purpose…or to intimacy. They are toning down their masculinity so as not to appear macho; to treat women equally; to be politically correct. But to treat a woman equally doesn’t mean a man needs to treat a woman like a man.

I explained this to my friend, and he asked, “How do you reconcile the modern roles of men and women with being masculine?”

By embodying your sexual essence: your masculinity or your femininity (note that some women have a masculine sexual essence and some men have a feminine sexual essence).

The new paradigm

In these modern times we rediscovering and recreating what it means to be a man, and what it means to be a woman. This definitely does not mean going back to a traditional power struggle.

Instead it is a new paradigm. The balance between masculine and feminine is a delicate balance, and we honor one another. We balance one another and support one another, giving our gifts in different ways and approaching life in different ways.

Tuning into our own bodies can guide us. Old myths, stories, and archetypes can help us. Discussing in community can help us. Testing new ways of showing up in the office or in the community. Circling with other women; with other men can help us as we step into a new paradigm of relating between the sexes.