What you do is only as effective as how you are being. That is because the thoughts and beliefs that make up your identity (who you are in the world) influences how you behave. Therefore, your mindset impacts your results.
The brain is a machine that loves to be efficient by repeating patterns. These patterns exist in our brains as thoughts and beliefs that then create emotions, then actions, and finally results. That is why it can be so challenging to shift our mindsets. If we aren’t paying attention to our thoughts and controlling them, we can end up in moods or rabbit holes of emotion that do not serve us.
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Thought forms can be destructive to relationships
From a relational and shamanic perspective, those thought forms can be devastating to relationships and to our energy bodies. They can clog our channels to the divine and take our precious energy.
For example, have you ever spun out on blaming someone or resenting someone? Have you ever created a huge drama in your mind, that doesn’t really exist in the real world? Then later you find out that your assumptions and anger were misplaced?
One way to stop those thought forms from taking over a relationship or ruining your day is to discuss it with the person in question. Share what happened so that you can be on the same page (“Remember when you said… and then I replied this…. and you said ….?”) then share how the moment or action impacted you.
Personally I do my very best to make it a practice to clear anything that is in the way of connection with my loved ones if they are willing to do this with me. For me, it is a spiritual practice that informs my ability to receive messages from the other realms—if my channels are all clogged up from garbage like resentment, I can’t do my job.
Shift your mindset to support your goals
The key to mindset is shifting how you are being. In other words, if you want more, you have to be more. You have to change the kind of person that you are in order to achieve your goals. Do that by focusing on your most important values and making decisions based on that. Do that by being a person with integrity meaning, do what you said you would do.
How you do things is more important than what you are doing because it makes an impact in the world around you, to other people, and most of all, it has an impact on how you relate to yourself.
So what kind of person are you? What is the identity you want to live by? Be that.
What is a growth mindset?
Back in the 80s, a researcher named Carol Dweck presented a research-based model to show the impact of mindsets. Her research articulated how mindset can prepare a person for performance goals or learning goals.
For example, “a student with a performance goal might be worried about looking smart all the time, and avoid challenging work. On the other hand, a student with a learning goal will pursue interesting and challenging tasks in order to learn more.”
Later on, Dweck found out that peoples’ thoughts and beliefs about their own intelligence (their identity) impacted their degree of motivation, effort, and the way they approached challenges.
In other words, thoughts and beliefs influence actions, and actions inform results. If people thought that they were able to learn more, they would have better results (because they put in more effort, felt more motivated, and were more willing to approach challenge), versus if they had a negative belief about their learning abilities. Can you see how identity impacts behavior?
So—are you a person who believes in herself? Or a person who has constant negative self talk?
There’s always work to do when it comes to mindset. First, you can start to shift your identity by paying attention to how you are doing things, and who you are being in the world.