Missing something doesn’t always mean you wish for it

Carrie JordanLife Design, Womens Wisdom

Usually when I say I miss something it means I want more of it. When I tell my far-away friends “I miss you” usually it means “I wish I could be in your presence on a regular basis.” It means that I am wishing for something other than what is.

But sometimes when we miss something it means that it was meaningful to us.

Sometimes I miss living in Seattle—I miss the plants, the rain, the Puget Sound…I appreciate all of the transformations I underwent while living in Seattle, but that doesn’t mean I should live there again.

That it was a meaningful experience doesn’t always mean we need to go back to being in those circumstances, but rather that we appreciate that it happened. It means that the experience or the circumstance shaped our lives in some way. It means we value those people, that place, that experience.

When we are living in the present moment instead of the past or the present, we have fewer things to be anxious about. We are ready to accept what happens more readily, we are flowing with what happens for us instead of trying to compare to the past or plan for the future.

When we approach each moment as just that moment rather than missing something that was (living in the past), we are more able to accept death. Not necessarily physical death of a body, but rather the natural cycles of life.

We are able to accept the death of that moment, as we move on to something else. We are able to accept when we are let go from a relationship, and we are able to see when it is time for us to let go of a relationship that is no longer serving us–That kind of death. It doesn’t matter if it’s the death of a relationship with a person, a job, a substance, a habit, it could be anything. Maybe it doesn’t serve me to stay up late at night anymore but now I won’t be able to read for hours each night. It’s time to let go of that habit and move on to something new. That is a small death.

When we live in this way we are subtly acknowledging the impermanence of our lives, our relationships, our circumstances. When we recognize the magic of the present moment and when we flow with what life is serving to us, we invite The Trickster into our lives.

The archetype of The Trickster smashes the structures and the lifestyle that we have created for ourselves. The Trickster will bother with us when we can recognize him at work, and see that he is breaking into our subconscious to trip up what we have systematically created for ourselves.

If we weren’t able to accept the little deaths before; if we are missing something or wishing for something, or even forcing something, rather than simply accepting how things are, The Trickster will help us as he smashes and kills our well-laid plans.

For example, sometimes we wish a circumstance would arise that just isn’t happening. We’re forcing it. Instead, we can recognize that this isn’t going to work and isn’t serving us, and let go of the idea. When we let go, another door opens.

The Trickster will remind us that we are not always in control; we can’t force something to happen that we are wishing for. The Trickster will remind us that there are possibilities in our lives beyond what we have considered for ourselves. The Trickster is a pain in the ass…but he is very wise.

It is a special strength that we demonstrate when we are able to roll with The Trickster’s punches, to see the impermanence of everything, and to move through life’s cycles with grace, appreciating what we have experienced instead of wanting something back…and accepting what is. Where has The Trickster been showing up in your life?