How to set “reasonable” goals

Carrie JordanBusiness, Life Design

Here are my answers to some frequently asked questions about goal setting, sourced from surveys I sent to our community via email.

What is a reasonable goal?

To the person who asked this question, I ask, what does “reasonable” mean to you?

In the quantum field, anything is possible. Are you living in the unlimited quantum? Or do you live in our limited 3D reality?

There is nothing wrong with either one…just know that your reality is a choice. Most people choose what is reasonable based on your past experiences. However if you live in the quantum, there are no past experiences because time and space does not exist and you are living in the NOW.

If you set goals from a place without limitation, do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, or frayed in your nervous system?

These are all questions to ask yourself. Because this process of “becoming” is not black and white. It is different for every person.

When I think black/white or right/wrong or reasonable/unreasonable, I think to myself, perhaps there is a third way…and I wonder what that would be for you.

Examine your thoughts and beliefs about what it means to be reasonable, time, and your ability to create, your ability to be in the flow of your soul’s purpose, and your innate power.

How often do you revisit your goals to see your progress?

In the Life Design Planner there are chances to set goals at different increments: Annually, quarterly, monthly, and weekly.

I set my big-picture visions and goals at the beginning of the year, and then each quarter, I set goals that map back to the annual goals. Then each month, I look back at the goals for that quarter, and set goals for the month that will help me move forward to those quarterly goals.

There’s also a very handy sheet for each month that breaks this down in the planner.

I adjust my goals on a quarterly basis because this is the time when I do a larger reflection. Then, I can see if I’m making progress or not, I can see the big picture of what’s working and not working, and I also have more information of what plans have changed or will be shifting in the future.

Tracking my progress is something that I do each week. I look back at my monthly goals, and see if I’ve done what I said I would, been who I said I would, and kept my commitments and devotions.

I find that simply asking the question “am I on track?” helps me recommit to myself and my path.

The most important place for me to be on track is with my practices and habits for my spiritual connection, my health, and my social life. It’s like hygiene: if I’m not sticking to my commitments and practices, the rest of my life starts to feel very challenging.

How do you handle it when you miss a day or falter?

 

I don’t dwell on it when I miss a day of my habits—it definitely feels odd, and hard to move forward with my day when I don’t have celery juice, or when I skip my walk, and I don’t prefer it. It also makes my practice more challenging to do the next day and a streak can start where I’m not doing what I committed to.

When I do my practice today, it makes it easier to do tomorrow.

When I don’t meet a goal, I feel bummed. However I am pretty good at getting back on the horse, evaluating what worked and what didn’t, and making a new plan.

What’s the difference between habits and goals?

There is some confusion out there on what a habit is versus what a goal is. Habits can definitely impact your goals in a positive or negative way. For example, if I have a goal of

A goal is something that you judge when it is complete. For example:

  • Make $5,000 this month
  • Lose 20 pounds
  • Write three chapters of my book

You know when you have reached your goal, because the number is met, or the project is complete.

In contrast, a habit is something that you don’t really think about—you do it on certain days or every day. For example, brushing your teeth every morning and night is a habit. The habits that support me the most right now are:

  • Daily prayer and meditation
  • My Monday Life Design Planner ritual
  • Drinking celery juice followed by a liter of water every morning
  • Morning walk

Habits can help you to meet your goals. For example, a habit of writing every morning for 20 minutes can help you finish those first three chapters of your book. A habit of reaching out to three potential clients each day can help you meet your income goal for the month.

I hope this supports you in becoming more of your soul essence! xo